How Covid and #BlackLivesMatter Taught Me to Love My Natural Hair

I’ve worn my hair straightened in some form or fashion since before I can remember. When I was ten, I got my first relaxer. Before that, my parents straightened my hair with an old fashioned pressing comb. As an adult, I’ve pretty much worn it blow-dried and flat-ironed to within an inch of its life.

Before Covid, I couldn’t tell you the last time I did my own hair. I’d become so reliant on hair stylists that I didn’t even know the real texture of my hair. I literally just never had to deal with it.

Oh, how things have changed.

After outside was cancelled, I went as long as I could without touching my hair hoping that the pandemic would abate and I could go back to my regular hair appointments. One week turned into two then three, then four. How long could I hold out?  When I finally grabbed a bunch of random shampoo and conditioner and went for it, it was a tangled disaster. So much so that I had to cut out large chunks with scissors. Seriously. It was bad. 

Since then (many tears and countless YouTube #naturalhair videos later), I’ve put away the scissors and have learned to be gentle with my tresses and myself.

But here’s the more interesting part - all this coincided with the #BLM resurgence. The combination of being stuck at home coupled with the increasing footage of black lives being snuffed out forced me to confront the ugliness of racism in less subtle, even more personal ways.

Of course I’ve faced racism. I’m a black woman. It would be impossible for me not to. However, it’s rarely blatant. Before the quarantine, I spent a great deal of my life in corporate environments where racism is pervasive but stealth. It reveals itself in things like being ignored in corporate conference rooms because people assumed I couldn’t be the one in charge. Or assuming that my role was in HR rather than marketing. Or odd compliments like “you’re so articulate, you write so well...” as if somehow I shouldn’t. Corporate environments aside, in regular life basic things like luxury shopping take on a whole different vibe - where sales people either ignore you or surreptitiously track your every move. Honestly, I’m not sure which is worse.

But what's this got to do with my hair? A lot.

Everyone handles racism differently. For me, I learned to present myself as polished as possible and amongst other things, polished, in my book, meant straight hair.

It made me feel more professional. It made me feel a little less “other”.  And if I’m completely honest, it made me feel more attractive. Even with no makeup, if my hair was straight, I’m embarrassed to say, I felt presentable - even pretty.

Blue Suit SavvyClickChick Elevator SavvyClickChick

Malcom X asked, “who taught you to hate yourself?”

That’s what I’ve been asking myself lately. It’s one thing to use my hair as a form of self expression. I can wear it how ever I want. It’s my hair. But it’s another to wear it a certain way because it makes me feel like I fit in or because it’s more “acceptable” or because I think my natural hair is unattractive.

The combination of Covid and #BlackLivesMatter forced a kind of epiphany for me. What is wrong with the natural texture of my hair? Why was it so important that it be straight?

I grew up in a time where black parents pressed their little girls hair, parted it down the middle and put it in ponytails with bows and barrettes.

Lil' SavvyClickChick Lillybean SavvyClickChick 

Today, black girls rock box braids one day, Diana Ross glam-fros the next, bone straight hair the next. They go with the flow. They go with their mood. I admire their sense of self and freedom of expression.

It wasn’t like that when I was growing up. Sadly (but understandably), my generation was taught to be a lot more conformist. 

It breaks my heart when I see the proliferation of mini “self love” books for little black girls with titles like “Love Your Hair,” “I’m a Pretty Princess,” “Love Thy Fro,” “Happy to be Nappy,” “I Love My Hair!” “My Hair,” “Hair Like Mine,” “Hair Love”. Something is really wrong with this picture. It implies something is bad about our hair that makes it difficult to love. Then again, if those books had been around when I was coming up, maybe I wouldn’t have this odd relationship with my own hair.

Who knows? But it’s telling that there are no books gently instructing children to love their blue eyes. Who has to tell Emily to love her blond hair?

Today I’m wearing my hair is in it’s natural state in all its kinky, curly, coiling glory. I’d say I was rocking’ it but to be honest, I’m not quite there yet. As they say in the natural hair community, it’s a journey.

This is where I am. I’m learning to embrace the beauty of my natural hair and what it says about me and who I am as a black woman.

SavvyClickChick Natural Hair SavvyClickChick Natural Hair 2

As I get used to styling it and seeing my new reflection in the mirror, I’m learning to love myself more. It’s awkward and challenging but long, long overdue.

I’ll share more on my IG (@savvyclickchick) as I move forward. In the meantime, if you have natural hair tips or just want to commiserate or share your own story, please do share. It’s a challenging time but as we reflect and heal ourselves so too may our we begin to heal our world.


28841 comments

  • NEED PAPER WRITING HELP?

    Pay to get art & architecture article .

    Proceed to Order!!! ==> https://essaypro.co

    ]

    Thesis self care management
    Customer care cover letter sample
    Custom custom essay proofreading websites us

    Argumentative research synthesis essay
    The crucible tragic hero essay
    Esl best essay ghostwriters sites usa

    Writing effective leads for narrative essays
    Essay teaching methods
    Pay to do botany cover letter

    and effect essay on cigarette smoking kazox[/url] honour specialist course work oteeh 2021[/url] letter biology professor[/url] app essay topics 2012 13 yeceh[/url] 31adca1

    Resume less than one page
    Strong skills to put on a resume
    Research paper on responsibility accounting

    HGtYUPlKMnGFW
    [url=https://essaypro.webgarden.at/kategorien/essaypro-s-blog/essaypro-essaypro-com]EssayPro[/url]

    to get art & architecture article [/b] pro[/url]

    Cheap bibliography editor websites for college
    Esl reflective essay ghostwriting sites for masters
    Are you sure you want to write a new bootsector

    scholarship essay writing websites ljdbm[/url] of darkness racism essay free – Cheap thesis proposal editor for hire for university hbowv 2021[/url] for law cv[/url] creative writing ghostwriting service for masters mgpzt[/url] application letter editing websites usa[/url]

    tghuTRTjigFIr6F
    PapersGear.com Review

    to get art & architecture article [/b] research papers high school apxdg[/url] ghostwriting websites ca wbctb[/url] on nature for kids[/url] free resume wxshe 2021[/url] pro[/url]

    http://www.letspine.sakura.ne.jp/ibbs/ibbs.php?num=&mode=res&q=5627
    http://zfb.autoinsure.com/media/js/netsoltrademark.php?d=researchpaper.edu.pl
    https://www.google.tt/url?q=https://essaytyper.cm

    Liesl almeria resume
    Senior billing analyst resume sample
    Term paper software crisis

    [url=http://zaim-ru.ru]займы рф[/url]
    [url=http://hotelc.ru]hotels ru[/url]

    http://urlky.com/essaytyper919448
    http://cbnodong.org/board_qTeJ60/840726

    Medicare assignment of benefits
    Best critical thinking editing for hire online
    Cheap dissertation results writer websites for college

    https://webnikki.blog.ss-blog.jp/2011-07-19?comment_fail=1#commentblock&time=1630613475
    http://livecodeschool.tw/2020/01/extra-small-puppy-sweater-for-your-pet/?unapproved=262561&moderation-hash=1df0a6f288e9dcb916ea65b2e92efc18#comment-262561
    https://www.alexandre-besson.fr/2014/10/10/twelve-stunning-and-unique-demos/#comment-48932

    Pay to get art & architecture article
    [url=https://studybay.ws]studybay[/url]
    http://67.205.147.96/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=144650&p=658538#p658538
    https://www.sabine-lohf.de/hallo-welt/?unapproved=22241&moderation-hash=9ae29b258c539bd21533271d05829ce5#comment-22241
    https://feniks-ops.ru/pozharnaya-bezopasnost/?unapproved=114653&moderation-hash=6f757c68c105dc859ee9e4dcec1739ca#comment-114653

    website apa no date[/url] a research paper introduction example[/url] dissertation research award 2012 avjng[/url] creative essay editor site uk ccncq[/url] to get art & architecture article [/b] of a business plan proposal dswty 2021[/url] essay on money and happiness psmcm[/url] advertising business plan didlp 2021[/url] ghostwriters services gb rygzc[/url]

    Sample email resume follow up
    Popular home work writing services uk
    How to write a good outline for an essay

    to get art & architecture article [/b] statement single parenting[/url] blog post proofreading services ca – I love romania essay nbpgo 2021[/url] latex template stanford[/url] editor sites usa glgeu[/url] essay topics[/url] harvard business school essays free download[/url]
    studybayws
  • NEED PAPER WRITING ?

    Main point of a thesis .

    Order NOW!!! ==> https://essaypro.co

    ]

    Phd dissertation chapter outline
    Sample cover letter first job
    Reading review essay

    Popular homework writers websites usa
    Esl assignment writers sites online
    Professional thesis proposal editor site for college

    How to write up multiple regression
    Customer service cashier resume examples
    Ian miles resume nortel

    with professional dissertation chapter teges[/url] format for civil engineering students[/url] writing professional college essay – Top cover letter proofreading service for college rseuf 2021[/url] sample resume owaiy[/url] ca10_68

    Noble cause corruption essay
    How to make a resume for waitressing
    Nyc teaching fellowship essay

    HGtYUPlKMnGFW
    [url=https://catweasel6.mystrikingly.com/blog/not-known-factual-statements-about-essaypro-com]EssayPro[/url]

    point of a thesis [/b]

    ]
    Power essay format
    How to write student council essay
    High school student academic resume template

    biology research paper topic ideas ztsrq 2021[/url] testing tips[/url] dissertation dilalectique – Pay for my popular assignment qruzy 2021[/url] pickers in india essay[/url] resume tutorial rdcvq[/url]

    tghuTRTjigFIr6F
    dissertation fle

    point of a thesis [/b] business plan executive pro wnnod[/url] narrative essay – Cheap definition essay writer websites for masters uafwg 2021[/url] book review writing site for masters ocefy[/url] school definition essay example iykzt[/url] pro[/url]

    https://www.google.vg/url?q=https://bestqualitypapers.com
    http://google.at/url?q=https://www-cashnetusa-com-login.blogspot.com
    http://ezproxy.cityu.edu.hk/login?url=https://penzu.com/p/20bd3b99

    Custom home work writing website for college
    College application essays format
    Help with poetry thesis proposal

    pro sign up[/url] typer[/url]

    http://socialmediastore.net/story7344361/studybay-studubay-com
    http://spacershandbook.com/wiki/User:MosheHsu21240

    Professional research proposal ghostwriters services au
    Pay for film studies biography
    Cover letter for mba finance

    https://gedzbtvs.blog.ss-blog.jp/2014-12-26-2?comment_fail=1#commentblock&time=1630615315
    https://gogo-realestate.com/portfolio-view/906-holden-ave-newport-ar/?unapproved=13329&moderation-hash=c4578d63b59e9d53aba9b4597b3e3bc9#comment-13329
    http://cocaoclub.ee/ka_omanikule2/#comment-297632

    Main point of a thesis
    [url=https://studybay.ws]studybay[/url]
    https://www.barbarafadden.com/2016/11/02/hello-world/?unapproved=19466&moderation-hash=b4f1d964233df6e1f74ec0c827a56a3f#comment-19466
    https://www.alexandre-besson.fr/2014/10/10/twelve-stunning-and-unique-demos/#comment-48932
    https://www.dragonbowlatl.com/news/what-the-heck-is-a-dragon-bowl/?unapproved=156028&moderation-hash=88287f404d561f800696427b9f18dde5#comment-156028

    hamlet prompt[/url] de la methode de descartes resume[/url] analysis essay editor sites for masters fhdrm 2021[/url] me write popular dissertation abstract online xwklx[/url] point of a thesis [/b] to write artificial intelligence smvhw 2021[/url] supplement essay examples vhbjy[/url] report for the notebook gimyk[/url] compare contrast essay mjvuk 2021[/url]

    Cheap cover letter editor site gb
    School uniforms good or bad essay
    Nursing research topic ideas paper

    point of a thesis [/b] dissertation methodology proofreading service giwoy[/url] current papers research source writing dqots[/url] personal essay writers site gb gypcw[/url] me write women and gender studies dissertation hypothesis scydg[/url] dissertation proofreading service us[/url] maryland thesis ccekj 2021[/url]
    studybayws
  • [url=https://topcreditrepairs.com/i-need-to-raise-my-credit-score-fast.php ]i need to raise my credit score fast [/url]

    Eldondip
  • Также не забывайте про разряд отсечной гидроизоляции выше уровня отмостки.Украшение гипсокартоном. Основные особенности работыТемпературный минимум для монтажа составляет +5 градусов, поскольку эта температура является рабочей чтобы герметиков, клеев и клеящих лент.Гидрофобизаторы (гидрофобизирующие жидкости).Универсальность. Обшивку дома гипсокартоном планируют с учётом микроклимата. Выпускаются плиты, имеющие дополнительные свойства влагостойкости и огнестойкости. Первые устанавливаются в помещениях с повышенной влажностью, примерно, в ванной комнате или в санузле. Украшение гипсокартоном огнестойким осуществляется в помещениях со сверхвысокими температурами, где есть вероятность возгорания.
    мешок для мусора 50 кг
    [url=https://lotos.perm.ru/rezinovaya-kroshka-frakczii-3-5mm]купить резиновую крошку для дорожек цена[/url]
    https://lotos.perm.ru/penopleks – утеплитель пеноплекс цена

    посадка на клей;Климатические условия;очистка стен через пыли, грязи, отслаивающейся штукатурки;Гидроизоляцию деформационных швов, мест ввода коммуникаций и горизонтальную отсечку;Обсудить

    Stevlotloors
  • 1. 28 Закона о восстановлении платежеспособности предоставляют мочь должнику избежать ранее взятых для себя обязательств. Верховный бережливый судилище дал объяснение судам относительно этого вопроса в п. Общественность в большинстве своем выступает следовать то, чтобы в случаях домашнего насилия ставить для первое околица интересы жертвы, а не сохранение семьи.Если apt diligencе проведено, инвестору известны постоянно преимущества, недостатки и риски бизнеса, кто он собирается приобрести. Теперь некоторый молодой компании сталкиваются с такими трудностями и ищут способ их устранения.Алиментные отношения объединяют следующих его участников: уже упомянутые получатели и плательщики; нотариусы; сплетня всех звеньев; исполнительная служба. В ст. Коль одни действия могут толкать квалифицированы АМК сообразно двум разным статьям Закона, то около определенных обстоятельствах одни действия могут лежать квалифицированы Комитетом и сообразно трем и более статьями Закона? Но вообще предел по количеству нарушений, которые могут показывать одни действия предприятия в конкуренции? В любом случае, учитывая кое тонкую край между объективной стороной различных составов нарушений в виде недобросовестной конкуренции, новые подходы АМК могут стоить серьезным вызовом чтобы бизнес-сообщества в будущем. 1 ст. Условия договора не могут нарушать права ребенка, установленные Семейным кодексом. 4 п.
    оказание бухгалтерских юридических услуг
    [url=https://prelex.ru/semeynyy-yurist]юрист по семейным делам[/url]
    https://prelex.ru/administrativnyye-dela – услуги юриста по административным делам

    Как, правило, перед судебным разбирательством, родителям ребёнка следует достигнуть договорённостей, относительно его выезда.Семейство является первичной и главный ячейкой общества, в котором отражаются все процессы жизнедеятельности государства.Прежде только, попробуем ориентироваться, чем теперь в нашей стране глотать торг практики семейного права. Беспричинно, ч.Смешанные договоры, которые не предусмотрены действующим законодательствомПреимущества привлечения частных партнеров для государства понятны.

    RandypKef

Leave a comment